Anti Hypocrisy
The most common way girls intimidate one another is by forming cliques. Not only do we see the bullying in girls when there is no acceptance to other girls when they wish to incorporate to the respective clique; but within the clique itself. Inside each clique there is usually a leader; the other members follow her in many aspects. For instance choice in fashion, hair cut, and the way she speaks. If the leader chooses to harass one of the members of the group, so do the others. Usually here is where the hypocrisy with girls begins.
Hypocritical girls could grow with this feature and have problems in their professional life as well as in their personal life. And this is why it should be avoided, how, by working with girls since their elementary years. This piece goes to girls from elementary who wish to have lifelong friendships and evade becoming a hypocrite.
Do you have older sisters or cousins? You might have talked with them about the problems they have had with their friends at school. But, if you start to use the tips given to you in this piece you may avoid some of those gloomy stories you’ve heard about the friendzillas girls these days run into. The biggest tip I could give you as a 15 year old girl is not to be a hypocrite.
What is Hypocrisy? Hypocrisy according to The Merriam-Webster Dictionary is: a feigning to be what one is not to believe what one does not. In easier words would be to pretend to be someone you’re not. This doesn’t just refer to using a wig or speaking like somebody else, but also to act like you didn’t say something you didn’t or that you like someone you hate.
Being left alone can be the biggest fear girls have in school. That’s why cliques are formed. The terrible situation some come across is feeling alone once in a clique. Girls can be mean, it’s a fact. When girls have sleepovers or other activities and one of them doesn’t attend she will always wonder if the others trashed her. If they do, you usually find out. However, the worst thing is when they pretend they didn’t. This is hypocrisy.
Hypocrisy is definitely in the top 5 nastiest girl aspects list. If you want to be remembered by your classmates as the nicest coolest girl instead of the friendzilla, don’t be a hypocrite! To accomplish this, live by these rules.
ANTI HYPOCRISY RULE #1
Be honest with yourself. To do this you have to know yourself, what you like, what you dislike etc. If you don’t want friendzillas don’t be one either. If you don’t like liars don’t lie; if you dislike when other girls laugh at you don’t laugh at them. This is easy, before talking about everyone’s flaws change yours first. If you were to be flawless then you would be allowed to criticize others.
ANTI HYPOCRISY RULE #2
We all get angry at our friends from time to time, but whatever the reason may be do not talk about her behind her back. Instead talk to her about it, this will avoid future problems. Promise! But girls have temptations, we just can’t resist; so if you do talk trash about her make sure to apologize to her as soon as possible. But don’t be a friendzilla with the other girl you did this with, apologize together; make sure you do this in a nice way as well.
ANTI HYPOCRISY RULE #3
Don’t be friends with someone whom you don’t like! This is something that can fill you up with hate. The quote ‘’keep your friends close and your enemies closer’’ can ruin you. Why, why, why would somebody do this? If you don’t like someone you shouldn’t make their life miserable, but why make yours by being his/her friend? Some would say this is the biggest act of hypocrisy a person can perform.
If you choose not to follow these rules you could have consequences. For example, what could happen if you and a bunch of your friends talk behind another’s back? Since you can’t control what other girls say, nor do, one of them could tell this girl about it and you could lose a friend. A huge mistake girls often make is, talk mean stuff about other people with boys. Keep in mind the following, guys hate this! Boys aren’t like girls; they aren’t interested in such rubbish. And at the end of the day you are the one he won’t like not whomever you spoke about; to his eyes and ears you’re the mean one for doing this not him or her for whatever they did.
Having a hypocrite free world could lead to having fewer issues. Not issue free, but these would be easier to solve. If we weren’t so hypocritical we would solve our problems faster and wouldn’t have the immense ones we have now. And attacking hypocrisy in an early age will create future men and women who will be able to talk every small or big problem they are presented with in the future.
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